Not Just Another Italian Wedding Project Bible 365 Day (12)
As I begin to gather my thoughts about the subject above, so many thoughts run through my mind when talking about the television and how it affects people’s lives. William Shakespeare once said that all the world’s a stage. .
“All the world’s a stage, And all the men and women merely players; They have their exits and their entrances, And one man in his time plays many parts.”
I knew that people can effect TV, but what I didn’t know is how one television program can effect not only one person’s life but many. For some people they don’t even realize that TV affects them in such a profound way. Of course I’m talking about the show Everybody Loves Raymond. The show itself became so well known with Italians that the broadcasting network known TLN produces re-runs of the former CBS show…
However I came to realize the impact television has on people’s lives when I began to write a speech for my twin brother’s wedding. My brother’s wedding was September 20, 2014. and as his twin brother I was asked to be his Best Man.
Once the details and the fine print was settled upon, it was time for me to write a speech fit for a wedding and of course a wedding speech that is fun to listen to and fond to reminisce about years down the road.
When considering the proper words to use in the speech, I had to reflect on the past, and in doing so, I reflected on events that I and my brother were apart of. I talked about how current situations affected us. I also took a guess and gave some theories on the future of their marriage. Meanwhile I had to create a speech that the many in attendance would remember. I had to make sure to be original, I had to be sure that the speech that I wrote made sense both from a literary and personal viewpoint. To add to the presure of all the things going on, try being a best man while at the same time not trying to call too much attention to a physical disability.
What many do not know is that years earlier before my brother even starting dating his than girlfriend at the time, my father constantly told me that my twin was going to get married soon. My dad told me this when I was 15 years old. I took his comments as negativity and so I never really paid too much attention to them. Fast forward 14 years later and the day arrives. I have to honest with you, even though I was journalist by trade and I had the ability to write creatively, I was at a loss for words when summarizing what my twin means to me. One other reason that I spent much time on the speech is because I knew with myself being a journalist, I had to deliver because everybody would be paying attention to me.
Before I even to write the speech, I was warned by a number of people not to act stupid or embarrass the family. I didn’t listen to anyone’s comments, I prayed about the speech and I sought answers from the Bible because to me that is the real final authority on things.
Even though I knew how to write very well. At first I didn’t want to write a wedding speech because that would mean I would have give up my brother, it’s a valid fear but it’s not reality.
Most of all I had to create a speech that wasn’t from the internet and to write a fitting speech for a groom I searched back into my life to the most significant dates. After two months of researching, reading, writing and editing I think I came up with a fairly good speech.
Without further ado, here is the best man speech, I wrote for my brother on the day of his wedding.
My speech at my brother’s wedding was titled How Can You Measure A Heart?
Even though we may be twins, the circumstances behind her birth did not in any way determine the events of today. As I sat down to write a heartfelt speech my mind began to wander, there I sat a feathered ink pen in one hand piece of papyrus paper in front of me and beside me a candle illuminating the words of the pages of the scroll. As I begin to write some of world’s greatest writers in literature ran through my mind. Names that were my childhood heroes as I grew up.
Those names include Robert Munsch, RL Stine, Dr. Seuss and Roald Dahl. As I woke up daydreaming I realized, I favour dogs over cats I don’t have Goosebumps and pigs belong between two hot dog buns and not between the pages of a children’s book. That being said I considered being my brother’s best man on this his wedding day my Golden ticket.
The question gets often asked of me. How can you and your brother get along so well? The answer is simple really, when it comes to video games you’re never be without a player two. To put it in terms you understand Angelo is the Mario to my Luigi but then he change the game plan because he got himself a Princess Peach.
At a ge 23 my brother and I both decided to part ways and go to separate schools. Angelo received an acceptance letter to attend Fanshawe College in London to study Police foundations. While I received a high letter of recommendation to attend Conestoga college to study journalism. The Robert and Ray Barone dream was becoming a reality.
A year into my studies my brother informs me that he no longer wants to become policemen, but rather a protector wildlife. At this point I kindly remind my brother what our father does the wintertime, and the camouflage he wears isn’t just because he’s trying to make a fashion statement. Wedding traditions are status quo such as the married couple would eat a piece of the wedding cake on the eve their the first anniversary but as you may expect Italian traditions work a bit differently.
We are cultured up and have our lives centered around two main ideals, food and a strong method of communication known as yelling or fussing. I stated earlier Italians love to make food. In fact we love to make enough food to feed an army. add 10 to 12 chairs depending on the company and multiply the portions of food depending on the mouths to feed. If my calculations are correct you have a table the size of 28 feet long. Which makes sense why Italians are always yelling at each other because there always yelling at each other to pass the food around the table. It’s time for Angelo and Jessie to start a relationship one that does not include yelling or fussing.
They can do that by putting love at the center of their marriage. What is love? Webster dictionary defines love is a strong sense of companionship with another person. However each year the definition of love changes according to romance novels dictionaries and yes even federal laws.
Would the parents of both bride and groom please stand. I have a few words for them to mark this occasion. The book of Mark chapter 10 verse 16: “behold I send you amongst the wolves as sheep be as harmless as doves but as wise as serpents. These two individuals have become one flesh in the sight of God and all of us it is written in the Scriptures that a man must leave his mother and father and hold fast to his wife. As the bride and groom both rise I would like to kindly remind them of my definition of love isn’t coming from worldly standpoint my definition of love is best found in the Scriptures in first Corinthians chapter 13.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
5 Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
6 Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
7 Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
8 Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.
The speech in itself when it was done received a standing ovation. After it was done. I got asked to visit a little while with everyone while I told them the changes that I had to go through when it came to writing a wedding speech that my twin brother could look back on and be happy about. Oh and just so the readers know that “fear” that I talked about was not real because instead of feeling like I am going to lose touch with my brother, that has not happened. In fact we have grown closer together since the marriage. It’s just been a little over a year now since they were married and they are happy with a baby girl to boot.
One of first ways that I could really see that my brother made the right choice in terms of marrying was witnessing the smile on both their faces. I had never seen that type joy and jubilation on the face of my brother before. That is when I knew their marriage was one that was going be long lasting.
Yes, certainly there are parallels that are similar to the Barone and the Sicilia brothers. but he’s got one up on me in the marriage department I guess the only thing I need to do now is get married, but that’s not even a priority right now. Time will tell what role I play in the future.
This concludes today’s message on Project Bible 365 Day (12)